Auguri Andrea!

Happy birthday to the one who always shows up, always, for everyone 💓💓

Buon compleanno a chi c'è, sempre, per tutti 💓💓

 

Sami turns 14

Dearest Pookie,

Here you are, in the thick of your teenager/teenajerk years, and as much as I can't wait until the eye rolls and sass finally cease, overall I am just so very proud of you, of how you move through the world. Your generosity, your humor, your dedication, your sense of responsibility to be a good person. I love every aspect of you - the good and the slightly more frustrating make you exactly who you are, and I just think you are the cat's pajamas.

Current favorites:

Hanging out with your friends and endless hours of videochats with them, doing well in school, traveling, going shopping, fun snacks, watching our tv shows together on the couch (currents: The Pitt, The Rookie and Ted Lasso), doing your hair and eyelashes, hanging out with your sister when she's not driving you crazy, laughing with me and papà when we're not driving you crazy, new phone covers, fake nails, fun school supplies, gelato, afternoons in the center with your friends.

Current favorite at-home meals: fajitas, cheeseburgers

Current best friends: Sofia V., Marialuisa, Amira, Federico, Erik, Diego, Tommaso

Current favorite restaurant: Sun

Current favorite color: pastel pink  

Current dislikes:

People treating you like a baby, your teachers telling you to chill out about your grades, anyone being condescending or patronizing, being asked to clean up, your sister being bossy, when I make meals you don't like (fish for example), not having down time, anything "cringe" - especially in public - going to the doctor and being sick, anyone fighting.

Sami, you are one of my favorite people on the planet and I am just so thankful that we have such a good relationship - despite these teenajerk times. I have learned so much from you these past 14 years. The joy you have brought to our lives since your arrival - that special twinkle in your eye and your dimples that you hate so much but that I love to pieces. You roll your eyes (surprise surprise) when I say it, but you are beautiful, inside and out, and I couldn't be prouder of the young woman you are becoming.

We love you and we are here with you by your side, always.

Love 💓
Mommy (and Papà and Sofi)

Sundays are for...

Listening to podcasts and audiobooks while folding laundry

Experimenting in the kitchen

Catching up on our 1,000th cycle through Gilmore Girls

Painting my nails a seasonal color

Foodshopping for this week's meal plan

Aimlessly staring out the window while sipping my 2nd cup of coffee

Playing Wordscapes on my phone

Snuggling on the couch

Lighting my favorite candles

Squeaky, relentless, immense gratitude

Sweet Sixteen!

My baby peanut is *16*!!! 💙

Dearest Sofi,

It's so cliche to say it but honestly, HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE??!!

How did we get from here...

To here already?...

It's hard for me to express how much I enjoy being your mom. Sure, there are hard days, and sometimes we fight and drive each other crazy and need a break from one another. But those moments never last very long, and we *always* find a way back to one another quickly, with a hug and a laugh. 

Seeing you grow into yourself, your own person, is the most gorgeous thing I have honestly ever witnessed. In most of these posts, I repeat that my hope for you and your sister is that you will never forget who you are and will be the best versions of yourself that you can be. And that is precisely what I see happening -- and I couldn't be more proud, relieved, joyful, excited for you.

Some of your current favorites:
Trying out new cuisines - at the moment Mexican (Mexi-Cali) tops your list but sushi's always a favorite too, spending time with your friends and family, swimming and your swim team friends, hanging out with your sister when she's not driving you nuts, laughing, watching The Rookie or S.W.A.T. or Castle all together as a family, improving your times at swimming, funny instagram reels, experimenting in the kitchen, finding new fun snacks, your cousins, dancing and listening to music, sleeping, hanging out in your room, one-on-one time with just mommy or papà, shopping for new clothes, peace (yours, ours, the world's).

Some of your current dislikes:
Having to wake up early, when you don't like what we're having for lunch/dinner, when papà or I are angry with you, when your sister is driving you crazy, injustice of any kind, hearing details about violence, cruelty and cruel people and snobs, people arguing, not knowing things that you want to know, having a lot of homework, being put in a "box" by people thinking they can define you.

Sofia, you are just one of the best people I have ever met: you are honest, you wear your heart on your sleeve, you are kind and generous and funny and silly and so smart and empathetic and you have the most beautiful way of seeing the irony in the world and in yourself. I absolutely love spending time together - chit-chatting, hanging out, laughing, sharing reels, eating snacks (yes I will always help you find one), and just discussing pretty much any topic. I love how you know you can come to me with any question, any problem, any insecurity.

I can't believe how lucky I am to be your mom and to have borne witness to these past 16+ years. Enjoy this next one, Peanut. And know that me, Papà and Sami are *always* here, that we will *always* see you and know you and appreciate you. No matter what.

Love and hugs and kisses,

Mommy

Samina's 13!

My dearest Pookie,

As I'm writing this, I'm listening to a song that always reminds me of you.

Wildflowers, by Tom Petty:

You belong among the wildflowers
You belong somewhere close to me
Far away from your trouble and worry
You belong somewhere you feel free

My baby girl is turning 13!

Having two teenagers in the house is so much more joyful and fun and gratifying than I ever imagined it would be, and that is thanks in part to your hilarious, generous, perceptive nature. 

Not only are you a dedicated, hard-working, self-motivated student, but you are a loyal sister, trustworthy friend and just truly a delight to be around. My biggest hope for you and your sister has always been that you would stay true to yourselves and - besides you unfortunately (and hopefully temporarily) abandoning your flamboyant fashion choices - you have done just that. You know exactly who you are, and I admire you so much for it.

Some of your current favorites:
Watching Castle/S.W.A.T./The Rookie on the couch all together, your phone and tablet, skin care and makeup, shopping (especially trips together to Tigotà and Tiger), spending time with your family, packing your bags and travelling, sushi, snuggles, not having to do homework, Dr. Pepper, candy, learning Tik Tok dances on YouTube, getting good grades, board games, family traditions - especially Christmas and birthdays, being free.

Some of your current dislikes:

Having a lot of homework, not feeling like you're ready enough for a test, group projects where your team members are not very motivated, when your sister bosses you around, having to clean up, cutting your hair, talking about your feelings, when someone doesn't show you respect or treats you like a baby, throwing things away, getting in trouble, anyone fighting or raising their voices, not getting enough down time to rest, eating fish, getting lectured.

Your generosity of spirit, your laugh, your drive to be a good person, your quick wit and hysterical take on the world around you...being around you is pure sunshine, even when you are in a bad mood or feeling particularly teen-angsty. I love having you as my little buddy and I know you will only continue to grow into an even truer version of yourself as the years go by - and I can't wait to see what extraordinary things the future will bring for you.

I am proud of you beyond words and am filled with gratitude that I get this front row seat. We love you, Pookie bear, no matter what - never ever forget it.

Welcome to the Teenajerk (ⓒSamina) years!!!

In her Quinceañere era!

 

My baby peanut is *15*!!?!

Dearest Sofia,

15 seems like an enormous number compared to all the others so far...but it makes sense, because every day I see how you are growing and morphing into a young woman. Smart, funny, self-confident, open-minded, sassy, diligent, sensitive, compassionate, bold, trustworthy, perservering, empathetic. You are everything and more than I ever hoped you would be, and watching you grow into yourself (or, more accurately, continuing to stay true to yourself) is one of the greatest joys of my life.

A favorite of mine is knocking on your door and you inviting me in to sit on your bed and chit-chat for a bit. I know that there are moments you need to follow your own path (read: steer very clear of your old ma), and that is totally normal and physiological, but I also can feel the bond between us, how strong it is, how much we enjoy spending time together, how we trust each other. You have never, not once, given me a reason not to trust your instincts, and that brings me not only great relief but so much pride. I can see how much you value yourself, and that is really all a mom wants.

And while we do have our tense moments and fight, I never have any doubt that we will find our way back (and usually pretty quickly), and that our love is stronger than any stupid argument. 

Some of your current favorites:
Sushi, spending time with your friends and family, swimming and your swim team friends, hanging out with your sister when she's not driving you nuts, watching Friends and New Girl and Outer Banks together, funny instagram reels, experimenting in the kitchen, rollercoasters and theme parks, your cousins, sleeping, hanging out in your room, going out to dinner, being a CIT last summer, playing board games together, all our family traditions.

Some of your current dislikes:
Having to wake up early, when you don't like what I cook, when papà or I are angry with you, when your sister is driving you crazy, when Samina or I dance or sing in public, injustice of any kind, going to doctors, cruelty and cruel people and also self-absorbed people, other people arguing, not knowing things that you want to know, Latin.

Words can't really express what it feels like to watch you, day in and day out, be so true to yourself and who you are. I always hoped that you would never lose that trust in yourself and, though of course you have those normal teenage moments of not loving everything about yourself, your self-reliance and self-respect are some of my favorite things about you, right up there with how curious you are about the world and other people.

Thank you for being such a delightful person, Sofia. You make the world a better place just by being in it, by shining your light and loving your people with such intensity and fierceness. I am so lucky to know you, let alone be your mom and have this ringside seat of what will surely continue to be your stunning, inspiring, magical life.

We love you so much, Sofi. Keep your head up high and enjoy the ride. You're doing great 💓

Love, 

Mommy (and Papà and Sami)

Sami turns 12!

To my sweet Pookie,

As your baby days become a distant memory, I find myself soaking in the "lasts" more and more lately. You've already long moved on from Barbies and LOL dolls, playing shop or watching How to Train Your Dragon (dangit, now I'm going to have to watch it alone). I brace myself because I know what comes next: the "mom, you're sooooo annoying" phase. I actually feel it here already (mainly because, well, you tell me all the time that I'm annoying!), but luckily I also can still convince you to give your old ma a cuddle at the end of the day.

You are a remarkable human being, Samina. You are SO FUNNY, so sharp and quick-witted, sassy, such a good analyzer of situations, a great problem-solver. You are responsible and diligent, kind and generous, sweet (when you want to be), careful, thoughtful. Actually, I really *love* the adjective one of your teachers used to describe you last week: solid. You are solid. A solid friend, a solid student, a solid daughter and sister. People can rely on you, and - and this is so important and perhaps my favorite part of the idea of you being "solid" - they can rely on the fact that your words match your actions. You do not waste your time in BS.

Some of your current favorites:
Your phone, skin care and makeup, watching videos on youtube, your friends, spending time with your extended family (especially your cousins, on both sides), gelato and candy, going to America, going to Sun, bowling and arcades, shopping, vacations from school, drawing and being artistic (you've gotten really good at lettering), swimming, Dr. Pepper, family shore week and Woodloch, new shoes and accessories, new pens and highlighters, getting cheap crap at Tiger, having guests over, watching tv, jumping on the trampoline, gymnastics in NJ during the summer, puns.

Some of your current dislikes:
Being told what to do, getting in trouble, when your sister bosses you around, cleaning up, not getting your way, being criticized, being bored, school, homework, wearing your retainer, somehow leading the group project...again, when people accuse you of lying, saying goodbye to the people you love, when you feel somone has done you wrong, being treated like "the little sister", fighting, talking about your feelings.

Being your mom has brought me and continues to bring me such joy, daily, without fail. Obviously parenting is never without its challenges, but being with you is always a laugh, and I learn something about myself pretty much every day.

Thank you for letting me be part of your life, for gifting me with this endless honor of being your Mommy. I love you, Pookie Bear/Sami/baby girl, and I know the future holds such beauty and wonder and magic for you - and I'm just thankful that I get to come along for the ride.

Happy 12th, Sunshine. Mommy loves you, always 💓